Practical Tips on Building Trust with Colleagues

Key take away:

1. Focus on self enrichment, the factor at work that is up to us. Our relating to colleagues may not always go our way. Speicifically, follow the teachings, and be a "益友" to attract "益友":《論語‧季氏篇》 子曰:「益者三友，損者三友；友直、友諒、友多聞，益矣；友便僻、友善柔、友便佞,損矣。 」 
2. Seek first to understand, including culture differences and temperament differences e.g. Introvert vs extrovert, especially professional boundaries and privacy norms. See Ken's story below, and Penny's story, respectively.
3. 多溝通少猜疑。 If you err, Err on the side of over communicate, that is for most of us. Do not assume your colleagues are already aligned and on board with your ideas and your understanding of the projects.
4. Cut colleagues some slack and Be gentle. The Message Bible defines gentleness as "Not Needing To Force Our Way in Life"
5. Be transparent: 

• 有選擇地講
• 講出來的，一定是事實

Ken:

•  a Japanese friend lost his job but, is he in the place to reach out and help him to find job, if the pride of the Japanese friend is such he does not want anyone to know he laid off?
  
• How often do we damage trust out of seemingly good intentions but not executing well?
• This example highlights two principles:

1. Culture sensitivities that we ought to develop 
2. Respect boundaries 

Penny:

The VP of engineering, who is practically everyone's boss in her work place, has been a private person never socialize with new people of her. It makes her wonder: how can a new employee get close to someone like this and build trust?  Note: the said private boss surprised her to broke down in tears at a recent retirement party. 

•   Vincent: trust can be build on professional interactions. we do not have to demaond friendships at work.
  

1.  點頭之交
   
2. 共同興趣
3. 一起作丢的project
4. 有信任基礎可以互相用反饋意見提醒對方的缺失

 

Practical Tips on Building Trust with Colleagues

Key take away:

1. Focus on self enrichment. 
2. 
   

Ken:

•  a Japanese friend lost his job but, is he in the place to reach out and help him to find job, if the pride of the Japanese friend is such he does not want anyone to know he laid off?
  
• How often do we damage trust out of seemingly good intentions but not executing well?
• This example highlights two principles:

1. Culture sensitivities that we ought to develop 
2. Respect boundaries 

Penny:

The VP of engineering, who is practically everyone's boss in her work place, has been a private person never socialize with new people of her. It makes her wonder: how can a new employee get close to someone like this and build trust?  Note: the said private boss surprised her to broke down in tears at a recent retirement party. 

1.   Vincent: trust can be build on professional interactions. we do not have to focus building friendships 
   

Yan:

Ken:

Hong:

Penny: 

View). This is proportional more important as wen scale the number and complexity of mutual dependent tasks.

Vincent: 

• In answering questions: err on the side of over communicate. Because the common newbie error is to assume the colleagues have understood our POV (Points Of View).
• Based on my QUALCOMM lessons, I could not agree more. At least with QUALCOMM, being a big company with fast moving parallel projects, I have observed that, despite repeated meetings and emails, I can almost never be sure that my key decisions will not surprise someone affected by them. 

Thomas

孟子·告子下

出处：《孟子·告子下》
孟子曰："舜发于畎亩之中，傅说举于版筑之间，胶鬲举于鱼盐之中，管夷吾举于士，孙叔敖举于海，百里奚举于市。故天将降大任于是人也，必先苦其心志，劳其筋骨，饿其体肤，空伐其身行，行弗乱其所为，所以动心忍性，曾益其所不能。人恒过，然后能改。困于心，衡于虑，而后作。徵于色，发于声，而后喻。入则无法家拂士，出则无敌国外患者，国恒亡。然后知生于忧患难与共，而死于安乐也。"
译文：
孟子说：“舜从田野之中被任用，傅说从筑墙工作中被举用，胶鬲从贩卖鱼盐的工作中被举用，管夷吾从狱官手里释放后被举用为相，孙叔敖从海边被举用进了朝廷，百里奚从市井中被举用登上了相位。
所以上天将要降落重大责任在这样的人身上，一定要道先使他的内心痛苦，使他的筋骨劳累，使他经受饥饿，以致肌肤消瘦，使他受贫困之苦，使他做的事颠倒错乱，总不如意，通过那些来使他的内心警觉，使他的性格坚定，增加他不具备的才能。
人经常犯错误，然后才能改正；内心困苦，思虑阻塞，然后才能有所作为；这一切表现到脸色上，抒发到言语中，然后才被人了解。在一个国内如果没有坚持法度的世臣和辅佐君主的贤士，在国外如果没有敌对国家和外患，便经常导致灭亡。
这就可以说明，忧愁患害可以使人生存，而安逸享乐使人萎靡死亡。”

Can We have a Damon - Jill Jones

From Aug 6 2015

Jill's example: 10+ years suffering spirit of fear: panic / sweat / anxiety

Isiah 61

Luke 418The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised

The word "Solzo"

• Saved
• Healed

4 legs of the Good News:

1.  Salvation to the Poor
2. Heal / bind-up the brokenhearted / bind-up the shattered into pieces person
3. Proclaim freedom to the prison ==> deliverance ministry for the people in bondage to:
1. 30 ciggarates a day
2. Anger
3. Fear
4. Come back again to proclaim the year of jubilee

In another words:

1. Save them
2. Heal them
3. Cast out damons
4. Proclaim His second coming

Disciples have to be healed

Luke 8: Mary called Madeline

Matt 28:

18And Jesus came and spake unto them, saying, All power is given unto me in heaven and in earth. ‬

19所以，你们要去，使万民 作我的门徒，奉 父、 子、 圣 灵 的名 给他们 施洗 

20凡 我所吩咐 你们的，都教训 他们 遵守， 我 就 常 与你们 同在，直到 世界 的末了。 ‬

What are Demons?

Demons are consequences for sin

9.2 The Heavenly Realms

There is a spiritual kingdom that submits to the will of God and a kingdom of darkness that opposes His will.

There is a spiritual battle taking place which affects every Christian.

1. Basic Principles:
1. God, the Creator, has sovereign power and authority over the created realms - the heavenly and the earthly realms
2. Angels are that part of the heavenly realm which is in obedience to God.
3. The Demonic realm is that part of the heavenly realm which is in rebellion against God. Satan is the head of the demonic realm. Demons are agents of Satan.
2. The Demonic Realm:
1. Demons are living beings and have specific characteristrics
2. Death and Hell, Antichrist, Jezebel are examples of the "strongmen" that rule over demonic groups
3. The desiire of Satan and his agents is to separate man from God

9.3 Power and Authority - Lost and Found

9.4 The basics of Demonic Intrusion in Man

Demons are consequences for sin

4 doors for demons to enter our house:

1. Personal Sin
2. Generational Sin
3. Other people sin against us:
1. Soul ties
4. Accident and Trauma
1. Lost consciousness
2. Depression

• Spirit of Infirmity: e.g. peter's mother with fever
• Spirit of fear
• Spirit of lust

Q&A:

1. Can holy spirit and demonic spirit co-exist?
1. Answer: Yes
2. Can a Christian be demon possessed?
1. Answer: No
2. Luke 4: 
1. ‪31And came down to Capernaum, a city of Galilee, and taught them on the sabbath days. ‬
2. 33 ¶ And in the synagogue there was a man, which had a spirit of an unclean devil (demon possessed), and cried out with a loud voice, ‬

e.g. Satan worship in Detroit Aug 2015

沉穩及其他品格

一：沉穩 

（1）不要隨便顯露你的情緒。 

（2）不要逢人就訴說你的困難和遭遇。 

（3）在徵詢別人的意見之前，自己先思考，但不要先講。 

（4）不要一有機會就嘮叨你的不滿。 

（5）重要的決定儘量有別人商量，最好隔一天再發佈。 

（6）講話不要有任何的慌張，走路也是。 

二：細心 

（1）對身邊發生的事情，常思考它們的因果關係。 

（2）對做不到位的執行問題，要發掘它們的根本癥結。 

（3）對習以為常的做事方法，要有改進或優化的建議。 

（4）做什麼事情都要養成有條不紊和井然有序的習慣。 

（5）經常去找幾個別人看不出來的毛病或弊端。 

（6）自己要隨時隨地對有所不足的地方補位。 

三：膽識 

（1）不要常用缺乏自信的詞句 

（2）不要常常反悔，輕易推翻已經決定的事。 

（3）在眾人爭執不休時，不要沒有主見。 

（4）整體氛圍低落時，你要樂觀、陽光!

（5）做任何事情都要用心，因為有人在看著你。 

（6）事情不順的時候，歇口氣，重新尋找突破口，就結束也要乾淨俐落。 

四：大度 

（1）不要刻意把有可能是夥伴的人變成對手。 

（2）對別人的小過失、小錯誤不要斤斤計較。 

（3）在金錢上要大方，學習三施（財施、法施、無畏施） 

（4）不要有權力的傲慢和知識的偏見。 

（5）任何成果和成就都應和別人分享。 

（6）必須有人犧牲或奉獻的時候，自己走在前面。 

五：誠信 

（1）做不到的事情不要說，說了就努力做到。 

（2）虛的口號或標語不要常掛嘴上。 

（3）針對客戶提出的"不誠信"問題，拿出改善的方法。 

（4）停止一切"不道德"的手段。 

（5）耍弄小聰明，要不得！ 

（6）計算一下產品或服務的誠信代價，那就是品牌成本。 

六：擔當 

（1）檢討任何過失的時候，先從自身或自己人開始反省。 

（2）事項結束後，先審查過錯，再列述功勞。 

（3）認錯從上級開始，表功從下級啟動。 

（4）著手一個計畫，先將權責界定清楚，而且分配得當。 

想和聰明的人在一起，你就得聰明；想和優秀的人在一起，你就得優秀。

於發現別人的優點，並把它轉化成自己的長處，你就會成為聰明人； 學最好的別人，做最好的自己。借人之智，成就自己，此乃成功之道。