Ego vs Assertive Communications

Today (Friday 1/13) George and I met in the morning. The key take away is that I now have a golden opportunity to cleanse the filth that disrupts assertiveness, and advance to a higher maturity for purpose of the kingdom. This the filthy dirt consists of self-righteousness, face-saving tendency and ego. As summarized by the saying: do not condemn your brother for his speckle in his eye until I remove the log in mine.

The said "Golden Opportunity" is the imminent change to move me from AT to VG, a move to separate me from my organizational sponsor / shelter, and put me in someone I do not trust, someone who wounded me in 2013 to 2014 over the span of about 1 year. VG spoke abusive words when he said: " Bear is now stuck. Access control cannot move to master-side, and I will not allow you to retreat to slave-side. You must be held responsible for this mess."   "You must shut up when it comes to Access Control. I will not talk to you, get out of my way and let me talk to Osman".

In my New Year's resolution, my No.1 goal in 2017 is to practice the principles of Assertive Communication written in Stephen Ministry book, "Speaking the Truth in Love - how to become an Assertive Christian".

When George shared Luke 5 with me, it because clear that Ego is the disruptor to Assertiveness. A big ego was very often responsible for causing my Aggressive attitude, or my "I'm No Ok" attitude.

During Sat's Stephen Ministry training class, Pastor Angela shared this quote from Larry Crabb:

God is always working to make His children aware of a dream that remains alive beneath the rubble of every shattered dream, a new dream that, when realized will release a new song, sung with tears, till God wipes them away and we sing with nothing but joy in our hearts.