The other party of the accident

The other party drove a green Ford F-150 XLT truck, 1997 model, that looks like the one left.

Photos after Car Accident Aug 24, 2008

The accident took place 8:58am Aug 24. There was a report on San Diego Union Tribune at:

http://weblog.signonsandiego.com/news/breaking/2008/08/seriousinjury_accident_in_rber.html

The email below documented some details too:

> Date: Thursday, August 28, 2008, 2:52 PM>
I just heard that the surgery went well with Mengtao. He> went into the operation room at 3:10 pm PST. His doctor came> out at 9:20 pm announcing a perfect surgery. Mengtao is very
> tired and back to room 408B.
>> He is expected to stay in the hospital for another week to
> clean his lung. It'll take another 3 months before he> could walk again. Total mobile recovery is expected to take
> 6 months.
> So it's going to be a long battle for Mengtao and his
> family.
> My husband said that some one from our church already got
> Mengtao an iPod with lots of music on it. So we need to
> think of something else to help him and his family through.
> This time, I'm thinking about something practical. I
> have some ideas:
> 1. A gift basket plus a collection of dinner gift cards to> relieve his family from some cooking burden
> 2. A get away vacation package for Mengtao's family to
> have a nice vacation after total recovery.
>> What do you think? Your ideas are also welcome.
> Meanwhile, can some one remove Mengtao from
cs82_reunion@yahoogroups.com temporarily so that he will not
> see all these messages.>> Ouyang


Subject: RE: ??: RE: [cs82_reunion] RE: prayers and support> for Zeng Tao>>>

So sad to know both two news. Pray for Zeng Tao and hope him to recover soon.>> Best wishes to you all,> Peihong Shen @Vancouver

Pray and best wishes for Zeng Tao!
>> BTW,remember Prof Zhang Shilong ? The former head of
> our Computer Dept, Peking Univ. He just passed away on
> Aug. 25, after realized his dream - watching the 2008
> Beijing Olympic Games. A simplest mourning ceremony as
> he expected will be held tomorrow morning. I'm so sad
> about his passing away. God bless him!
>> Pingjie Zhao>>

: Wed, 27 Aug> 2008> > 11:40:41 -0700Subject: [cs82_reunion] RE: prayers

> > and support for Zeng Tao> >> >> >> >> >


Hi Ouyang, I am so sad to hear the news. Just> > talked to your husband (Zhu Quan) this morning and

> > knew a little more details. Hope Tao can recover

> > soon. ( I also added cs82_reunion@yahoogroups.com> <mailto:cs82_reunion@yahoogroups.com>> > group email to the reply list),

Zhiguo>



> > Dear all,>> > On Sunday,> > August 24 at around 9:00 am, a driver who failed to
> > stop at a red light ran into our dear classmate,>

> Zeng Tao (also known as Mengtao and Thomas) causing'
> serious injuries. As you can see from the following

> news report that the car ran into Mengtao's car

> > right at the driver's position

Mengtao was rushed to Scripps Memorial Hspital and stayed in ICU for two days. He was finally moved ut of ICU this morning. When my husband went with> > some other people from our church to visit the> > hospital this morning, Mengtao was in good spirit.> > He's now waiting for second opinions from doctors> > from our church whether he should undergo pelvis> > surgery.> > Mengtao's wife and two children> left for> > Taiwan last week and Mengtao was scheduled to fly> > out to Taiwan today. Now the plan had to be changed.> > The family are coming back this Friday. Mengtao said> > that he did not want to alarm his father and sister> > at this time. So please help keep this from them.>> >> > The direct line to his room is (858)626-6458. But my> > husband said that Mengtao was still weak in talking> > and had difficulty with breathing due to punctuated> > lung. He's also taking a lot of pain medicine. So> > phone call is probably not a good idea. > >> Nurses> > said that we can send flowers but no soup, fruits,> > or other food. If you're interested in sending> > flowers or cards, the address for the hospital is> > 9888 Genesee Avenue, La Jolla, CA 92037 and Mengtao> > is in room 408B. > > I'm thinking music> would not be> > a bad idea. (My husband said that Mengtao mentioned> > that his first thought when he regained conscious> > after the crash was "what happened to my> iPod") So,> > I'm wondering if some of you may be interested in> > joining me to get a iTune collection for Mengtao.> > I'm not familiar with iTune at all. But I imagine> > there could be a way to set up a common collection> > then each one of us can select and pay for one or> > two songs to be included in that collection. If you> > are interested in such token of love for Mengtao,> > could you please let me know? If there are enough> > interest, I will explore the possibility.> > For> > some reason, I was not able to find my final> > distribution list of emails from our reunion. So if> > you happen to have one, could you please forward> > this message to that list? Thanks.> > In any> case,> > please extend your thoughts and prayers for Mengtao> > and his family.> > Ouyang>

Hearing Sound of Whispers in Morning Devotions

2008.4.20週日
連續第八天，靈修時神的話臨到我。靈修用的是Wisdom for Today by Chuck Smith，2008年全年，每天一篇。前八天的事情記載如下：

1. 四月十三日 約伯七章17節 -人算什麼，你竟看他為大，將他放在心上。
   “耶穌變成了人的樣式，以便神可以將我們塑造成祂自己的性情。因此上帝培養和操練我們，他容許磨練和失望的事情，因為他知道，唯有磨練和失望可以預備我們進入永生。像約伯一樣，我們會遇到損失和失望。可是每一次的損失，其實是神的美意的一部分。”
2. 四月十四日 呼求有一個中保，約伯記九章33節 我 們 中 間 沒 有 聽 訟 的 人 、 可 以 向 我 們 兩 造 按 手 。
   今天靈修的主題是，耶穌是人和神中間的橋樑，是中保。正好因為與老闆的衝突，我在工作中間正急需找一個橋樑，中保。這一天我已經事先約好跟一個上級共進午餐，這個上級在午餐的時候同意來做調停的工作。
3. 
   四月十五日 虛無 + 虛無 = 虛無 約伯記十三章31節 他 不 用 倚 靠 虛 假 、 欺 哄 自 己 ． 因 虛 假 必 成 為 他 的 報 應 。
   我內心潛意識的期盼是找別人來肯定我，來表揚我是能幹的好人。第二是靠提職稱加薪來增強自尊。這兩樣其一是今生的驕傲，其二是眼目的情慾。加起來都是虛空。若我繼續照這個潛意識的老我播種，失望，空虛和痛苦也必成為我所結的果子。
4. 
   四月十六日 賞 賜 的 是 耶 和 華 ． 收 取 的 也 是 耶 和 華 約伯記十九章25節 我 知 道 我 的 救 贖 主 活 著 、 末 了 必 站 立 在 地 上 。
   這幾天的經歷告訴我，祂沒有離開我，雖然我不知道明天會發生什麼事情，可是我要靠信心等候。
5. 四月十七日 我深深感受到神的話臨到我。”雖然我沒有親眼見過神，但是我可以感受到祂的同在和對我生命的影響。＂＂我聽見他微小的聲音，和祂大能的手在我身上作工。＂

Fighting Depression

I am not depressed, but I used to, for a rather long time.
Two things helped me more than others:

• Psalm, e.g., 164 and 90, 91.
• Follow the advice of consuelors to study Psycological books: Your Child's self esteem, Celebrate Yourself, Resolving Conflicts, Our Families of Origins

My favorate depression-shield used to be Pslam 143:8. Now I like better Psalm 90 and 91, partly because I have grown to know the hearts of darkness in myself and in others.

詩 90:15 求你照著你使我們受苦的日子和我們遭難的年歲，叫我們喜樂.
詩 91:1 住在至高者隱密處的，必住在全能者的蔭下。
詩 91:2 我要論到耶和華說：“他是我的避難所，是我的山寨，是我的 神，是我所倚靠的。”
詩 91:3 他必救你脫離捕鳥人的網羅和毒害的瘟疫。
詩 91:4 他必用自己的翎毛遮蔽你，你要投靠在他的翅膀底下。他的誠實是大小的盾牌。
詩 91:5 你必不怕黑夜的驚駭，或是白日飛的箭；

詩 143:7 耶和華啊，求你速速應允我！我心神耗盡，不要向我掩面，免得我像那些下坑的人一樣。
詩 143:8 求你使我清晨得聽你慈愛之言，因我倚靠你；求你使我知道當行的路，因我的心仰望你。
詩 143:9 耶和華啊，求你救我脫離我的仇敵，我往你那裡藏身。

Colio Extra Dry Helps Dad to Sleep

Today dad prayed a touching prayer for my sis who is under a lot of stress.

1. 
   

Wine Type:	White
Brand Family:	Colio-Varietals & Blends
Tasting Notes:	An excellent very dry wine made from a blend of vinifera and hybrids. It has a delicate and fruity fragrance, with a clean elegant light taste.

Mar 24, 2008 Suffering vs Cry for Help

The cry for help from Ling sadden me, caused me to reach deep into my heart.

Will the God of Salvation help us to come out of the crsis-mode conflict this time? Will He prove to be faithful? Will He be capable?
Lord, in my troubles I call to You, because dozens of times in the past You answered my pleas. I will continue to count on no one but You.

Thoughts on "Homeschool Fathers"

• What are our spiritual goals for Tracy and Taylor?
1. Form a habit to spend daily quiet time for spiritual things
   
2. Choose to believe and be saved
3. Form the habit to obey authorities on earth out of respect to God
4. Write Bible verses in hearts
5. Form the habit to tithe, to understand that it is not about "me/my glory" but "His Glory"
6. Develop a kind heart, like a disciple of Jesus
   

我信主的经过

我信主的经过

• 序

耶穌說： “聖靈的力量， 讓我門為罪，為義， 為審判， 自己責備自己。” （約16：8）
當初我的父子關係和人際關係長久陷入死胡同，唯聖經的教導，聖靈的力量， 最終帶領我出黑暗入奇妙光明。

• 信主前:　

我出身在一個黑五類的家庭。父親在1958四川中學的社教運動（又稱五八劫）評為三類落後高中生而不能上大學。
母親家裡，外公在政治運動遭遊街批鬥， 她和外婆有時得靠撿河裡漂下的菜段過活。母親小時有一次黑夜從外公挨批的場地走好幾里路回家。 一人走在田埂，四周黑漆漆一遍，好孤單無助。

父親二十於年在社會底層掙紮， 每逢政治運動備受排擠歧視。 他被迫膽小過活， 心中滿有委屈。心靈的創傷，生活的艱難，政治環進境的惡劣，留下刻骨銘心的烙印。受了太多不公正待遇的 父親不知道健康的方式來處理人際關係。
在我長大濄程，我同樣沒學會何謂健康的方式來處理人際關係。感謝上蒼， 我有機會擺脫爸爸的命運， 遇到可以憑成級考大學而如願以嘗，不像父親被“黑五類”的身份剝奪進入大學的夢。

然而命運的改變僅在教育的層面。在人際關係上面， 我繼續活在父輩受膣酷的困境，像在死胡同打轉。

原來從十五歲左右，我就開始於父親疏遠， 感情方面漸行漸遠。 一邊怕他， 一邊隱約渴望他的溫情，渴望家光明寧和的氛圍。我如此的內在需要哪裡可能從父親得到？ 他掙扎在“黑五類”的恐怖陰影下，在我映像中是惶恐不安的氛圍居多。

上大學， 出國留學就業， 我選擇走自己的路， 於父親漸行漸遠。 信都很少跟父親通。走自己的路， 卻不知道健康的方式來處理人際關係，於同學，導師， 同事特別異性朋友，關係問題越集越大。

夜深人靜， 我的心苦苦尋索： 家光明寧和的氛圍在哪裡？ 我的苦惱，被我壓抑心裡，帶來不時的抑鬱失眠。

窮則思變。我的苦苦尋索引我接觸教會，接觸聖經。 特別1992父親節， 我聽了難忘的一篇道（sermon)。麥榮禧牧師選弗6：1 －4 來提醒兒女父母的健康像處之道。

6:1 你 們 作 兒 女 的 、 要 在 主 裡 聽 從 父 母 、 這 是 理 所 當 然 的 。
6:2 要 孝 敬 父 母 、 使 你 得 福 、 在 世 長 壽 ． 這 是 第 一 條 帶 應 許 的 誡 命 。
6:4 你 們 作 父 親 的 、 不 要 惹 兒 女 的 氣 、 只 要 照 著 主 的 教 訓 和 警 戒 、 養 育 他 們

對我走出父子關係和人際關係長久陷入的死胡同， 正須這篇父子健康相處之道。我的心馬上起了共鳴。我思考：雖然父親無意中管過嚴，忽視了溫情， 可我何嘗未曾違背人倫，這第 一 條 帶 應 許 的 誡 命呢？

聖靈為罪，為義， 令我自己責備自己。很快我打電話請父親原諒我的反叛。不久他也告訴我他對過去對我嚴格偏多，溫情不夠的反思。

• 信主後

這以後， 我們父子關係開始走出死胡同。在我信主後，我父母妹妹先後信主。
而當我解開了原生家庭之死結後， 其它人際關係慢慢也變得健康多了。

我夢中渴望光明寧和的家的氛圍，信主後在我於爸爸的相處中終於找到享受到了。被自己父親悅納，實在幸福。被自己天上的父親悅納，同樣幸福。我時常在靈修和危難中親身感受天父的同在。上帝所賜，超過我心所想 。